The 6 etiquettes （六礼）''delivery of gifts'' seeking consenting to the date selected & taking the bride ,as people in modern time do not follow the system of arranged marriage,many of these stages undertaken by the match maker are eliminated 1:The official proposal （纳采）2 :The combination of Bazi (問名） 3: selection of an auspicious date (纳吉) 4: Delivery of gift (纳微)